When words don’t work, agreements seem impossible, and distance grows, there are practices every man can begin today, hidden ways that rebuild trust, create clarity, and change the way you lead in every relationship. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John and Devin reveal four hidden ways to win your wife’s heart every time. These principles apply to friendships, family, and work, but they work best where it matters most: in your marriage. They’re not gimmicks or tricks, but the kind of invisible leadership Christ Himself modeled. They never teach this… but it works.

Many husbands confuse authority with control, and it’s slowly killing trust in their marriages. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt unpack why your wife resists your leadership, how control is a counterfeit of true authority, and why authority, rightly lived, is a God-given responsibility that blesses and gives life. You’ll hear practical examples of the appropriate use of authority versus control over your spouse in spiritual life, finances, and parenting, along with the deeper fears that drive men to dominate or withdraw. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to lead with sacrificial love, preserve your wife’s dignity and free will, and rebuild trust even when your leadership has been rejected.