Episode 222: Is It Lust or Love? – 5 Ways to Tell

Is it lust or love? Many men are looking for a cure for lust and often think that marriage will cure it, only to discover the struggle follows them into married life. The truth is, marriage doesn’t magically cure lust. If you battled it before, you’ll still battle it after. Marriage doesn’t change the interior dispositions and temptations of man. Love does.

In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose one of the most misunderstood realities in marriage: the difference between lust and love. Wives know the difference, and they can feel when they are cherished and when they are being used. And if men don’t learn this distinction, it erodes trust, poisons communication, and slowly kills intimacy.

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The Catholic Gentleman is a show for Catholic Men on the topics of living with virtue and holiness in the modern world. Featuring interviews and commentary, the show seeks to provide practical insights for men of all ages.

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