What do you do when your spouse’s past sins still frustrate your present? When forgiveness has been given, but you find yourself still losing your peace and thinking about it? In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt confront a painful and often-unspoken challenge in marriage, how to find peace, confidence, and love when your spouse’s past continues to echo in your life. They discuss why sexual sin leaves such deep scars, how comparison poisons peace, and how Christ’s mercy can restore both love and trust. Today, they share the theology, psychology, and practical steps that lead to freedom. Whether you’re haunted by your spouse’s past or your own, this episode reveals how God can make what was wounded whole again.

Every couple begins marriage with love, purpose, and seemingly endless dreams, but then the kids arrive...and everything changes. Sleepless nights, endless noise, and unrelenting schedules can slowly replace tenderness with tension. Before long, spouses who once felt inseparable find themselves living like teammates or strangers, wondering where the closeness went. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt confront one of the hardest truths of married life: intimacy doesn’t die overnight; it fades when it’s no longer pursued. They share how to see, hear, remember, and respect your wife again, and how daily virtue (not quick fixes) restores the bond that children, exhaustion, and the world so easily erode.

Most couples believe love and faith are enough to build a marriage. But what if they aren't? Too often, the real cracks appear after the vows because they never talked about what truly matters. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt walk through the questions engaged or serious couples must ask to build a lasting, holy marriage - the ones no one talks about anymore. From intimacy and past wounds to faith, finances, and family culture, this episode uncovers the silent assumptions that quietly sabotage relationships. Whether you’re preparing for marriage or already living it, this conversation will challenge and strengthen you to love with purpose, lead with humility, and live your vows with integrity.

Every loving husband wants his wife to be happy. But what happens when every attempt, every word, solution, silence, seems to push her further away? Why is it that more often than not, she does not want us to help her fix her problems? In this episode, John Heinen & Devin Schadt dig into the struggle so many good men face: the instinct to fix their wife’s unhappiness… and why healing often begins when you stop trying to be her repairman. You’ll hear the truth about the masculine drive to solve, the feminine longing to be seen, and how the real breakthrough comes when you shift your focus from making her happy to loving her well. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt reveal 7 Rules Only the Best Men Know, a framework that works 100% of the time. These rules cut through the noise and give men the clarity and strength they’ve been missing. With Scripture, Catholic wisdom, and lived experience, they challenge men to stop drifting, stop doubting, and start living with purpose.

Women who stay home do so from a natural and holy urge, but they are made constantly to feel as if they should be doing something of “actual value” out in the world.  Obviously, to a Catholic with even the slightest formation knows the dignity of motherhood is above all other vocations.  There is not a higher work.

Few men realize how deeply silence about sex can wound intimacy. It’s not usually selfishness that causes distance, but fear of saying the wrong thing, being rejected, or exposing the ache for connection that runs deeper than words. Over time, unspoken needs harden into resentment, and what was meant to unite begins to divide.

Most men want to succeed in life, but could never explain how it’s truly done. We chase goals, work harder, and push ourselves, yet still feel like something is missing. The world promises success, comfort, and freedom, but delivers noise, confusion, emptiness, and disappointment. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt reveal 7 Rules Only the Best Men Know, a framework that works 100% of the time. These rules cut through the noise and give men the clarity and strength they’ve been missing. With Scripture, Catholic wisdom, and lived experience, they challenge men to stop drifting, stop doubting, and start living with purpose.

Men underestimate the war being waged against them. The Devil doesn’t just tempt from a distance; he enters your home, seeking to pull you off your vocation as a husband and father, drown out the voice of God, and divide your marriage. Scripture, the saints, and even modern exorcists confirm it: this is how the enemy works. Yet the vast majority of men are unarmed and frankly unaware. Only 5–10% of Catholic men are even praying daily. Is it any wonder the family is crumbling? In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt break open The Rule to expose three subtle but devastating ways demons attack men. We’ll name what’s really happening, why it matters for husbands and fathers, and how you can resist.