Every couple begins marriage with love, purpose, and seemingly endless dreams, but then the kids arrive...and everything changes. Sleepless nights, endless noise, and unrelenting schedules can slowly replace tenderness with tension. Before long, spouses who once felt inseparable find themselves living like teammates or strangers, wondering where the closeness went. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt confront one of the hardest truths of married life: intimacy doesn’t die overnight; it fades when it’s no longer pursued. They share how to see, hear, remember, and respect your wife again, and how daily virtue (not quick fixes) restores the bond that children, exhaustion, and the world so easily erode.

Most couples believe love and faith are enough to build a marriage. But what if they aren't? Too often, the real cracks appear after the vows because they never talked about what truly matters. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt walk through the questions engaged or serious couples must ask to build a lasting, holy marriage - the ones no one talks about anymore. From intimacy and past wounds to faith, finances, and family culture, this episode uncovers the silent assumptions that quietly sabotage relationships. Whether you’re preparing for marriage or already living it, this conversation will challenge and strengthen you to love with purpose, lead with humility, and live your vows with integrity.

Every loving husband wants his wife to be happy. But what happens when every attempt, every word, solution, silence, seems to push her further away? Why is it that more often than not, she does not want us to help her fix her problems? In this episode, John Heinen & Devin Schadt dig into the struggle so many good men face: the instinct to fix their wife’s unhappiness… and why healing often begins when you stop trying to be her repairman. You’ll hear the truth about the masculine drive to solve, the feminine longing to be seen, and how the real breakthrough comes when you shift your focus from making her happy to loving her well. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt reveal 7 Rules Only the Best Men Know, a framework that works 100% of the time. These rules cut through the noise and give men the clarity and strength they’ve been missing. With Scripture, Catholic wisdom, and lived experience, they challenge men to stop drifting, stop doubting, and start living with purpose.

Every man lives by a story, but what if the story you’ve been living isn’t true? We find ourselves, unknowingly, trapped in lies that define who we are and how we must act. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose the hidden lies that quietly shape how men see themselves, their worth, and their purpose. These lies are subtle, powerful, and universal, and until they’re revealed, they keep good men restless, anxious, and unsure of who they really are. With honesty and Catholic depth, John and Devin call men back to their true identity, one rooted not in lies but in something far greater. If you’ve ever felt like you’re striving but still empty, this is the episode you can’t afford to miss.

Few men realize how deeply silence about sex can wound intimacy. It’s not usually selfishness that causes distance, but fear of saying the wrong thing, being rejected, or exposing the ache for connection that runs deeper than words. Over time, unspoken needs harden into resentment, and what was meant to unite begins to divide.

Most men want to succeed in life, but could never explain how it’s truly done. We chase goals, work harder, and push ourselves, yet still feel like something is missing. The world promises success, comfort, and freedom, but delivers noise, confusion, emptiness, and disappointment. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt reveal 7 Rules Only the Best Men Know, a framework that works 100% of the time. These rules cut through the noise and give men the clarity and strength they’ve been missing. With Scripture, Catholic wisdom, and lived experience, they challenge men to stop drifting, stop doubting, and start living with purpose.

Most men want to succeed in life, but could never explain how it’s truly done. We chase goals, work harder, and push ourselves, yet still feel like something is missing. The world promises success, comfort, and freedom, but delivers noise, confusion, emptiness, and disappointment. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt reveal 7 Rules Only the Best Men Know, a framework that works 100% of the time. These rules cut through the noise and give men the clarity and strength they’ve been missing. With Scripture, Catholic wisdom, and lived experience, they challenge men to stop drifting, stop doubting, and start living with purpose.

God does not want men to be merely nice. He wants us to be strong lions, but not the wild sources of chaos lions can become, or the weak beaten down caged versions. He wants us to be the strong powerful instruments of his will in the world, using all the potential for courage and virtue we have to fight and defeat the enemy and protect and defend the family.