There is always the temptation to keep score. Every little disagreement becomes a legal discussion, and you try so hard to win the case and walk away victorious. But it costs you. 74% of divorced people say their spouse should have worked harder. 73% say they themselves had already done enough. Both cannot be true.

I was engaged to be married when I was 22, which I understood to be the achievement of manhood. The better part of my teenage years were spent preparing for that moment. This was it, I told myself, I was finally going to be a man. I was ready. I wasn’t ready. I wasn’t ready […]

Every couple begins marriage with love, purpose, and seemingly endless dreams, but then the kids arrive...and everything changes. Sleepless nights, endless noise, and unrelenting schedules can slowly replace tenderness with tension. Before long, spouses who once felt inseparable find themselves living like teammates or strangers, wondering where the closeness went. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt confront one of the hardest truths of married life: intimacy doesn’t die overnight; it fades when it’s no longer pursued. They share how to see, hear, remember, and respect your wife again, and how daily virtue (not quick fixes) restores the bond that children, exhaustion, and the world so easily erode.

Most couples believe love and faith are enough to build a marriage. But what if they aren't? Too often, the real cracks appear after the vows because they never talked about what truly matters. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt walk through the questions engaged or serious couples must ask to build a lasting, holy marriage - the ones no one talks about anymore. From intimacy and past wounds to faith, finances, and family culture, this episode uncovers the silent assumptions that quietly sabotage relationships. Whether you’re preparing for marriage or already living it, this conversation will challenge and strengthen you to love with purpose, lead with humility, and live your vows with integrity.

There are many misconceptions and myths about pornography use and marriage that need to be dispelled in order to heal many marriages and relationships. Let's get to the bottom of this sin and addiction that plagues our world today.