Last week, I wrote a post about how dangerous porn is; how it destroys your relationships with God and others, how it kills your soul, and how it enslaves you. Perhaps some thought I was exaggerating or simply being shrill. That’s why I want to share a real-life story left in the comments of last week’s […]

Fatherhood seems to be on a decline these days. From portrayals of the “idiot dad” in commercials to the epidemic of single mothers, there is a real problem that goes beyond just our modern culture. Men love adventure, and the real secret of fatherhood is that there is an adventure every day. We’re not talking […]

This post is part of a series on dating and marriage. In the previous post, I wrote about the importance of dating intentionally— that is, dating with the clear goal of marriage. But before we go any further, I believe it is important to define what a true, sacramental marriage actually is, especially in light […]

Most men feel it before they can name it. That slow, quiet sense that life is just happening to you. Work has become a treadmill, marriage a parallel operation, faith something rote and obligatory. John Heinen and Devin Schadt go deep on what's actually behind male drift and why the standard diagnosis misses the real problem entirely. They trace how the invention of adolescence quietly dismantled the rite of passage from boyhood to manhood, why 59% of men between 24 and 29 don't actually feel like adults, and how men have been inheriting that deficit ever since. Today we unpack the distinction between vocation and occupation and why a man who has traded the first for the second will always feel like something is missing, no matter how much he achieves. We discuss Aquinas on the order of charity, what it means to have solid convictions versus just ambition, why hope requires something genuinely difficult to be real, and what St. Ambrose meant when he said the man rightly called a king is the one who makes his own body an obedient subject.

It is no exaggeration to say that it comes down to one thing: your morning routine. As a house is built upon a solid foundation, the days of your life are erected upon your daily morning routine. Conversely, if your house has a foundation wall that is bowing or buckling, it will eventually settle and perhaps collapse. As a car rides on four tires, your days will ride on your mornings. Again, if just one of your car’s four tires is flat, your vehicle will not drive. Therefore, if you do not have a solid, consistent, life-giving morning routine, like that car, your life will go nowhere. Your mornings determine your days, and your days determine your months, and your months determine your years, and your years determine your legacy. Conversely, your grand vision of your life depends on the smallest of factors—how you begin your day, everyday.