Get Married, Young Man, Part 2: What is Marriage?

December 20, 2013
This post is part of a series on dating and marriage. In the previous post, I wrote about the importance of dating intentionally— that is, dating with the clear goal of marriage. But before we go any further, I believe it is important to define what a true, sacramental marriage actually is, especially in light […]

How to Stop Fighting with Your Wife

July 23, 2025
What if the biggest threat to your family isn’t outside your home? John Heinen sits down with Andrew Laubacher, musician, speaker, and Executive Director of Humanality, to expose how your smartphone has been reshaping your attention, your memory, and your children’s brains. With billions of dollars behind it, Big Tech wasn’t designed to serve you and your family. It was built to capture your time, shape your habits, and replace real relationships with curated digital ones. In addition to helping you protect your family from these devices, we also discuss how to protect them from your own temptations (distraction, pornography, passivity, and escape). What do you do when every conversation with your wife seems to go sideways, even when you're trying to do the right thing? John Heinen and Devin Schadt sit down to expose the hidden habits that slowly destroy communication within marriages. With spiritual clarity and lived experience, they unpack how small patterns, like avoidance, assumptions, or rushed “fixes/hacks", can consistently unravel trust between husband and wife. Instead of playing defense, this episode shows men 5 ways to take responsibility for the tone, clarity, and direction of the most important conversations in their home. Because a Catholic husband doesn’t just talk, he leads. And that starts with the next conversation.

The Hidden Secret to Keeping Your Kids Catholic

July 9, 2025
Why are 85% of Catholic children walking away from the Faith, even after years of weekly Mass, sacraments, and for many, Catholic school and youth group? John Heinen sits down with Devin Schadt to expose what parents today have been missing and why the solution is found inside the home. With wisdom drawn from recent studies, Church teaching, and personal experience, they reveal the one secret that thriving Catholic families have that others miss entirely. These families do not have children leaving the Faith when they go off to college, and actually, the reverse is happening. Instead of just doing more religious practices, this episode invites men to build something deeper: a Catholic family culture rooted in warmth, tenderness, and order. Devin and John break down how your family’s core values, a family personality, and devotional life can become the shield that protects your children from spiritual collapse. And they share practical steps, beginning with one conversation with your wife that needs to happen immediately. What happens when your wife begins to pull away, and you can't figure out why? What's more is that everything you do to help fix the situation seems to fall short. John Heinen and Devin Schadt discuss the hidden physical, spiritual, and emotional forces that quietly fracture Catholic marriages. Drawing on Scripture, theology, and hard-won experience, they reveal how isolation, resentment, and the demons can slowly unravel trust and intimacy. Instead of ignoring the drift, they unpack five subtle dynamics that sabotage unity and show how to reclaim authentic headship rooted in sacrifice, courage, and clarity. If you’ve felt the distance and wondered how to bridge it, this conversation will equip you to lead with confidence and rediscover the peace, trust, and communion God intends for your marriage.

No. 1 Reason Wives Pull Away

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What if the most important spiritual formation in your child’s life isn’t happening at church—but at your dinner table? Today, John Heinen and Devin Schadt discuss how family dinner has quietly lost its soul—and how fathers must bring it back, not just as a routine, but as a call and obligation. The culture has shaped the dinner table into what we commonly see today on TV. It is failing at its core mission to be a cornerstone of a thriving family. What happens when your wife begins to pull away, and you can't figure out why? What's more is that everything you do to help fix the situation seems to fall short. John Heinen and Devin Schadt discuss the hidden physical, spiritual, and emotional forces that quietly fracture Catholic marriages. Drawing on Scripture, theology, and hard-won experience, they reveal how isolation, resentment, and the demons can slowly unravel trust and intimacy. Instead of ignoring the drift, they unpack five subtle dynamics that sabotage unity and show how to reclaim authentic headship rooted in sacrifice, courage, and clarity. If you’ve felt the distance and wondered how to bridge it, this conversation will equip you to lead with confidence and rediscover the peace, trust, and communion God intends for your marriage.

Love ‘Em Before You Date ‘Em

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