Is it lust or love? Many men are looking for a cure for lust and often think that marriage will cure it, only to discover the struggle follows them into married life. The truth is, marriage doesn’t magically cure lust. If you battled it before, you’ll still battle it after. Marriage doesn’t change the interior dispositions and temptations of man. Love does. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose one of the most misunderstood realities in marriage: the difference between lust and love. Wives know the difference, and they can feel when they are cherished and when they are being used. And if men don’t learn this distinction, it erodes trust, poisons communication, and slowly kills intimacy. Charles shares what he’s learned from working with exorcists, what the Church teaches about the saints’ ongoing mission, and why every man needs to claim spiritual warriors to fight for him and with him. You don’t need to be possessed to need a saint. You just need to be in the battle, and we all are.

Men underestimate the war being waged against them. The Devil doesn’t just tempt from a distance; he enters your home, seeking to pull you off your vocation as a husband and father, drown out the voice of God, and divide your marriage. Scripture, the saints, and even modern exorcists confirm it: this is how the enemy works. Yet the vast majority of men are unarmed and frankly unaware. Only 5–10% of Catholic men are even praying daily. Is it any wonder the family is crumbling? In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt break open The Rule to expose three subtle but devastating ways demons attack men. We’ll name what’s really happening, why it matters for husbands and fathers, and how you can resist.

When words don’t work, agreements seem impossible, and distance grows, there are practices every man can begin today, hidden ways that rebuild trust, create clarity, and change the way you lead in every relationship. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John and Devin reveal four hidden ways to win your wife’s heart every time. These principles apply to friendships, family, and work, but they work best where it matters most: in your marriage. They’re not gimmicks or tricks, but the kind of invisible leadership Christ Himself modeled. They never teach this… but it works.

Your best friend is the person you want to be with the most. When something good happens, he/she’s the person you tell first. When something bad happens he/she is the person you turn to first for help/comfort. This is the kind of relationship a husband and wife should have.

Many husbands confuse authority with control, and it’s slowly killing trust in their marriages. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt unpack why your wife resists your leadership, how control is a counterfeit of true authority, and why authority, rightly lived, is a God-given responsibility that blesses and gives life. You’ll hear practical examples of the appropriate use of authority versus control over your spouse in spiritual life, finances, and parenting, along with the deeper fears that drive men to dominate or withdraw. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to lead with sacrificial love, preserve your wife’s dignity and free will, and rebuild trust even when your leadership has been rejected.